Self pleasure will revolutionise your relationship

From lived experience, I could give you about a thousand reasons as to how self pleasure will change you in ways seen and unseen, but let me expand on why it is so important to continue doing in relationship, and why this is not talked about enough!

I am massive on self sovereignty, conscious and lovingly out of the box relationships.

Because relationships are a catalyst for spiritual and sexual awakening, healing traumas and we are wired as humans to be relational.

The dynamic I am living to bring you today, is the dynamic of collapsing in relationships.

I see this again and again and I truly believe the sweet elixir that many do not talk about, is the self care, softening, devotion and erotic play that truly only happens with pleasure.

What is the one thing we tend to let go of when in relationships?

Our own self pleasure.

We become reliant on the other fabulous human we have chosen to be the giver of said self pleasure, which is so yummy and delicious in many ways.

But let me tell you, there is nothing more sexy than a human being filled up from themselves, and overflowing that goodness to another via choice.

That surrendered devotion to be of service to another’s pleasure, and not a necessity.

Feel the energetic difference in those two things?

Mmmm I know you do!

Self pleasure allows you to caress yourself and explore yourself in ways unknown, all the way to the depth and darkness of your soul....and then invite a lover deep into that space with you.

Oofffff that is how you have fully embodied, erotic ecstasy orgasms beyond comprehension.

That is how you create soul connection with another human.

Self pleasure allows you to truly go there, to meet yourself and then welcome your lover into the void with you.

You become magnetic to them (think cannot keep their eyes and hands off you chemistry vibes, because you are radiating that glow from within)

Your relationship shifts because you know what you like, you learn your own boundaries, your embodied yes and no is felt and therefore expressed more easily.

You ooze a self love for your body and yourself, all of your layers and full spectrum expression, that is palpable, it ignites your partner in ways that are not tangible.

You show up differently when you’re well fucked by you and then it ripples out to be well fucked by your love and therefore not to be fucked around with by others.

You know, your baddie era should be when you are in a delicious and nourishing, expansive relationship with a partner of your choice....

Because here is the kicker –

All of our relationships, and I do mean all of them, begin with the relationship to yourself, your body, your pleasure, your self love and your inner world is reflected out to those around you.

This is why it begins within, and should not stop when we step into relationship with another.

We should deepen, expand, fulfill, grow, build erotic desire and luscious love forevermore....until we revolutionise relationship dynamics around the world with orgasms and pleasure.

Watch the old paradigm of desire being fuelled by another be burned to the ground and crumble all around I say, for radical relationships that will change the world!

So you relationship hunnies, are you ready to put yourself first, in service of your relationship?