Emotional Sovereignty

This weekend I practiced the power of emotional sovereignty.

On Friday, I went to see Moulin Rouge with my Mum. While I was queuing up for a drink I overheard a conversation between two friends, they were bitching about their friend who was not in attendance that evening.

The friend was unvaccinated and they were complaining about how difficult she had become because of this choice.

As a strong advocate for body autonomy, it was quite hard for me to listen too. I felt myself simmering into an emotional state of judgement, frustration and anger.

When suddenly I had a moment of clarity.

I realised that feeling all those reactive emotions really wasn’t serving me on my fancy night out and that I could instead choose how I wanted to feel.

I took a breath and started to feel into what might be beneath these women’s bitching.

And I felt instantly that there was grief. Grief that their friendship which was probably quite ‘normal’ before coronavirus had become ‘difficult.’

I felt that these women just wanted to get on with life and they were either in pain that this friend was making choices that didn’t allow her to partake in that life…

Or that they were genuinely finished with the friendship but lacked the emotional capacity to recognise this and articulate it to said friend - so instead simply bitched as a form of ventilation.

I began to feel compassion enter into my body.

I felt compassion for these two women standing in front of me as much as I felt for their friend. Compassion that a rupture had been caused between friends because of a mandate.

In a single day we experience a whole range of emotions, but as days become weeks, weeks become months, and months become years - we can get used to being in certain states of emotion more than others.

The next day I was home alone and feeling lonely, an emotion I am used to feeling in the premenstrual phase of my cycle. Thoughts started looping in my mind that confirmed my lonely feelings like ‘you’re alone again’, ‘I can’t believe we’re still on dating apps’ ‘no one has even asked you to hang out this weekend.’’etc etc etc

I could feel my emotions taking a downward spiral, when again that moment came,

I became conscious of what was happening and I took a deep breath,

I moved my awareness into my chest and focused on my heart,

I let my breath expand the space around my heart and felt it relax.

I allowed the love from within me to beam around me and break through the illusion that I am alone, and instead moved into a state of connectedness with everyone and everything.

I became sovereign over my emotional experience and instead of it ruling me, I commanded it.

Make no mistake when I speak about emotional sovereignty I am not meaning you should simply bypass and dismiss all dark emotions.

Fuck no, I love dark emotions.

Sometimes emotional sovereignty can mean that instead of the same passive forgiveness, one could choose ANGER as a response to their injustice.

Toxic positivity is a real problem, especially in the spiritual world.

But that’s not what I was doing, judgement and loneliness are emotions I have explored, I’ve expressed them, gone into them, seen their depths - and I know I will many times more.

It takes a high level of self awareness to ascertain when an emotion is worthy of being followed and felt and expressed fully.

And when you see that the emotion is simply trying to take you down a worn out road that you already know, which decreases your energy, and leaves you depleted.

Instead you decide on an expansive emotion that will increase your energy, bring you back to your centre. And bring you back to love.

In my Pussy Palace circles, and with my 1:1 coaching clients I LOVE to go deep into emotional sovereignty.

Into commanding your emotions rather than letting them rule you.

To understand their origins and choose the emotional path leads to liberation.

Because what we experience in our internal world is what we experience in our external reality.

And I for one am creating an inner reality which can reflect a life of love, compassion, respected boundaries, joy, pleasure and much much more.

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