Heart aglow as I overflow with the love of common unity… community.
Heart aglow as I overflow with the love of common unity… community.
Five years ago, when I moved back to Australia, my feathers were thoroughly ruffled by my return.
I’d been travelling for two years, and the arrival back to an excruciatingly hot January in Melbourne, the abrasive sound of Aussie accents, and the realisation that old friends no longer lived in Melbourne, had moved on, or simply didn’t align with me anymore, left me with a feeling of not belonging in my birthplace.
I had left my beloved Swedish community, returning with the intention of saving money whilst also studying my Sex, Love and Relationship coaching certification.
After that, I was getting my butt straight back onto a plane.
However, my plans to flee my birth country were thwarted by the arrival of Covid.
I, nor anyone else, was allowed to leave the country—not even allowed to cross state borders.
So there I was, in a land I felt disconnected from, with no community, and literally locked in.
Moving to the outer suburbs to be closer to nature, I realised my attitude of rejection towards this country wasn’t helping me feel less alone. So, I decided to take matters of belonging into my own hands.
I headed down to the local farmers’ market, and there I saw them… my people.
It was in the way they dressed, the way they pulled down their masks to hug one another, the way they swapped art in the vegetable lines and laughed despite the climate of fear and separation.
Here were my people, but they didn’t know me yet, didn’t hug me like I longed to be hugged.
There was no way to get to know them other than this market because of the totalitarian lockdown rules.
I decided to make every Sunday a friend’s mission.
I got out of my sloppy Covid clothes, put on something stylish, even applied eyeliner, and headed into the market. I made a beeline to people who felt like my vibe, and after a few Sundays of ‘friend-flirting,’ I asked the vulnerable question:
"Would you like to be my friend?"
Five years later, my heart is exploding, having just spent the last seven days with the most potent, expansive, loving, deep, and aligned community I have ever been part of.
We co-created a week of music, play, creativity, artistic expression, and connection to nature.
Together with friends old and new, I laughed till my belly hurt, cried and was held, sat in tea ceremony, swam naked, practised acro-yoga, shared meals, snuggled, danced till my legs felt like they’d fall off, connected with my friends’ children, made vision boards, held hands beneath the stars, sang and rapped, was awed and inspired, loved and acknowledged.
The love I feel in my heart from having magnetised this community feels monumental
Unlike an ecstasy high that peaks then drops, it is a love that is deepening and emboldening, like a fine wine.
This is the beauty of common unity—community. It’s not just about finding people who align with your soul but about becoming someone who radiates belonging, someone who draws in others through the light of their own self-love and authenticity.
One of the biggest takeaways from this New Year’s experience was the feeling of sovereignty within the community.
As I drove away to be intentionally alone for January, I felt the peace in my bones that no matter how far I roam, I now have a soul family that is my home.
Some faces will always be the same, but many are new.
For I am realising that belonging does not come from outside the self. It is a light that radiates inside one’s own self.
The light of that inner belonging is as magnetic and influential as the moon is to the tides.
In many of my coaching sessions and group containers, I coach people who feel the loneliness and separation I once felt.
People who long for the community and belonging I once longed for.
I know now that belonging is one of my greatest teachings—my greatest teachers.
One client who came to Pussy Palace Vacation 2024 and is returning for 2025 said to me:
"I’m coming back for the people. My entire year was shaped by the people I met at Pussy Palace."
Feeling a sense of belonging is essential to feeling fully met in your life—fully loved in the uniqueness of you.
Everyone belongs. Some simply haven’t found their people yet or need to take the brave step of finding new people.
This journey of common unity—community—is more than just a personal blessing. It’s a gift I am devoted to sharing. Because when we embrace the unity within ourselves, we become a light that others can find and follow.
And isn’t that what it’s all about? The beauty of common unity starts with us.
Are you ready to find the soul-deep connection and belonging you’ve been craving?